Comments on: Fighting the Funk http://jaredferguson.com/2009/01/08/fighting-the-funk Jared Ferguson's online accouting of (in)significant events. Since 2002 Sun, 01 Aug 2010 19:59:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Jared Ferguson http://jaredferguson.com/2009/01/08/fighting-the-funk/comment-page-1#comment-24305 Jared Ferguson Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:41:14 +0000 http://jaredferguson.com/?p=1411#comment-24305 I know I'm being intentionally vague, but you're on the right track. (: I know I’m being intentionally vague, but you’re on the right track. (:

]]> By: marta http://jaredferguson.com/2009/01/08/fighting-the-funk/comment-page-1#comment-24304 marta Thu, 08 Jan 2009 20:34:49 +0000 http://jaredferguson.com/?p=1411#comment-24304 Okay...first of all...I still have no idea what you're talking about...but my advice is TRUST YOUR INTUITION. That is the only thing you have to use as your compass. It you have done something to hurt feelings or offend someone, it sounds like you have taken the proper steps to rectify the situation. If that person chooses to accept your remorse, it is in their hands to move forward and show you that forgiveness has been given. If they are incapable of doing that....and you have been genuine....do you really need someone like that in your life? Now is the time to cut the crap, and be who you truly are, and see others for who THEY truly are. Like I said, I still am confused and not even sure I'm giving the right kind of advice....but it's really very simple. You done everything in your control to right your wrong....now it's their turn. How they handle the situation will tell you volumes about them as a person, and also about your friendship. Okay…first of all…I still have no idea what you’re talking about…but my advice is TRUST YOUR INTUITION. That is the only thing you have to use as your compass. It you have done something to hurt feelings or offend someone, it sounds like you have taken the proper steps to rectify the situation. If that person chooses to accept your remorse, it is in their hands to move forward and show you that forgiveness has been given. If they are incapable of doing that….and you have been genuine….do you really need someone like that in your life? Now is the time to cut the crap, and be who you truly are, and see others for who THEY truly are. Like I said, I still am confused and not even sure I’m giving the right kind of advice….but it’s really very simple. You done everything in your control to right your wrong….now it’s their turn. How they handle the situation will tell you volumes about them as a person, and also about your friendship.

]]> By: Jared Ferguson http://jaredferguson.com/2009/01/08/fighting-the-funk/comment-page-1#comment-24303 Jared Ferguson Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:29:00 +0000 http://jaredferguson.com/?p=1411#comment-24303 Thanks Marta. You all's support does mean a lot to me. As far as the tough love thing goes, I know, I know. I've got to just get past it. I have to admit how funny it is to work with a bunch of people who are getting over the good-look/perfection thing themselves, only to realize that I'm right there along with them. You are correct, I have played my mistake over and over again in my head. Even though I've apologized for it, I'm afraid damage was done. My logic tells me I really blew it, but my intuition tells me things are kosher. My problem now is just accepting my mistake and giving myself permission to move past it; something I've never done well. Tips? Thanks Marta. You all’s support does mean a lot to me.

As far as the tough love thing goes, I know, I know. I’ve got to just get past it. I have to admit how funny it is to work with a bunch of people who are getting over the good-look/perfection thing themselves, only to realize that I’m right there along with them.

You are correct, I have played my mistake over and over again in my head. Even though I’ve apologized for it, I’m afraid damage was done. My logic tells me I really blew it, but my intuition tells me things are kosher. My problem now is just accepting my mistake and giving myself permission to move past it; something I’ve never done well. Tips?

]]> By: marta http://jaredferguson.com/2009/01/08/fighting-the-funk/comment-page-1#comment-24302 marta Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:10:34 +0000 http://jaredferguson.com/?p=1411#comment-24302 Wow....sounds like you've had a rough time "Fighting the Funk". I always worry about you when we don't hear from you. I know for myself, I don't like to call anyone until I have something good to say about what's going on in my life. I think that's a pretty universal feeling. I don't know what you're going through, but I know - that you know - we support you. I'm really glad you have somewhere to go when you need to clear your head, and just get out of the house. We're thinking about you but here's the tough love part. Quit being so freaking hard on yourself...seriously....it's totally unnecessary. Quit pulling a "Chris" and be reasonable. There's nothing wrong with being an Over-acheiver... but within reason. You're allowed to screw up. You're allowed to be less than perfect...that's life. Now pick yourself up, clear your head, and start moving forward. I know I am guilty of this myself, yes, believe it...I too am a perfectionist. However, find that middle ground with yourself. You know you are doing the best you can right now. When you screw up, quite beating yourself up, dwelling on it, or over analyzing it. (because I KNOW that is EXACTLY what you're doing....playing it over and over in your head) Find your error, accept it....move forward. Hope I haven't come across too harshly....I can be kind of insensitive sometimes....eeek. Wow….sounds like you’ve had a rough time “Fighting the Funk”. I always worry about you when we don’t hear from you. I know for myself, I don’t like to call anyone until I have something good to say about what’s going on in my life. I think that’s a pretty universal feeling.
I don’t know what you’re going through, but I know – that you know – we support you. I’m really glad you have somewhere to go when you need to clear your head, and just get out of the house.
We’re thinking about you but here’s the tough love part.
Quit being so freaking hard on yourself…seriously….it’s totally unnecessary. Quit pulling a “Chris” and be reasonable. There’s nothing wrong with being an Over-acheiver… but within reason. You’re allowed to screw up. You’re allowed to be less than perfect…that’s life. Now pick yourself up, clear your head, and start moving forward. I know I am guilty of this myself, yes, believe it…I too am a perfectionist. However, find that middle ground with yourself. You know you are doing the best you can right now. When you screw up, quite beating yourself up, dwelling on it, or over analyzing it. (because I KNOW that is EXACTLY what you’re doing….playing it over and over in your head) Find your error, accept it….move forward.
Hope I haven’t come across too harshly….I can be kind of insensitive sometimes….eeek.

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